Episode 6 - Be A Good Daddy
We talk about how important it is for foster kids to have good daddies.
We talk about:
- The need to counteract bad fathers in foster kids’ lives
- Giving hugs
- Foster dads who get dragged into by their wives
- Telling girls they are pretty. John and Stasi Eldredge: Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman’s Soul
- Calming Andrea’s mania
Michelle said,
October 6, 2007 @ 11:35 pm
Great Podcast–but one thing I note is that kids who go into the foster-care system have bad moms as well as dads. IMO it’s a team effort, and both foster parents need to fill the roles of mom and dad that the biological parents neglected to fill. JMO.
Tim said,
October 6, 2007 @ 11:35 pm
too true!
MaryAnn said,
October 6, 2007 @ 11:38 pm
Hi Tim & Wendy,
We just listened to all your podcasts tonight in one sitting. DH & I are exploring the idea of fostering and have found your journey helpful.
Just wanted to chime in about your thoughts on raising daughters. Though we’ve not been parents ourselves, enough counseling of young women has helped us to understand that girls need to know that they are VALUED because they are God’s, not because they are ‘pretty’. If we focus so much on complimenting them when they are pretty - wearing dresses and ribbons, etc, then they will believe that their value is based on their beauty and always seek after that. This could be trouble because most girls end up feeling like they are not pretty enough (even if their parents telll them so — at some point (teenage yrs) what their parents say won’t count as much as what the boys say) and will do whatever they can to receive the attention and affirmation. We need to affirm our girls on their character, their godliness, etc. Unlike what the Eldridges write, I think a woman’s greatest longing/desire which need to be met is not “to be a beauty” but to be the apple of GOD’S eye (to know that they are HIS valued creations), at the center of HIS will for them.
There’s a book called “Growing Strong Daughters” (Lisa Graham McMinn) that does an EXCELLENT job pointing parents in the right direction in how to raise up daughters that they may become more Christ-like (rather than conforming to the world’s message of what a women ’should be’). Here’s the link to amazon.
Blessings to you both in your journey!
Sam said,
October 6, 2007 @ 11:38 pm
In addition to what Mary Ann said above, I wanted to add Prov 31:30,
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.”
We need to teach our young women that the most important thing is fear the Lord. Their identity needs to be based on Him.
Tim said,
October 6, 2007 @ 11:39 pm
Great points. Glad you found us!