Comments on: Episode 40 - Fost-Adopt Disruption http://fosterpodcast.com/episode-40-fost-adopt-disruption/ Join foster parents Tim and Wendy as they discuss foster care and adoption. With humor, insight and Christian faith, they share their everyday ups and downs as a foster family with hopes of adoption. Get your questions answered about the foster and fost adopt system while following Tim and Wendy as they journey through the process. What is it like to deal with the system? Are all social workers really jaded? How intrusive is it on your life? All these questions and more will be answered from a real-life perspective. Watch out! You may find yourself thinking about fostering or adopting too! Fri, 05 Dec 2008 06:53:46 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Emily http://fosterpodcast.com/episode-40-fost-adopt-disruption/#comment-363 Emily Wed, 01 Oct 2008 20:47:25 +0000 http://fosterpodcast.com/?p=47#comment-363 I am glad you addresed this issue. What we had wasn't really a disruption but it was unexpected and unwanted. We had been parents to our FTA daughter for 12 months (since she was 5 days old when I picked her up at the hospital) when we were very unexpectedly called on the phone by her social worker and told that they were going to move to place her with a half sister that had come into the picture out of nowhere the month before. She didn't leave our home until she was 14 months old. It was very very difficult, as everyone involved in the case had expected that we would be adopting her within the year. She had had no contact whatsoever with an member of her bio family since her first week of life. We had 2 other children in the home the whole time - 1 FTA daugher who we had completed adoption on (almost 3 y/o), and 1 FTA son not yet adopted (almost 2y/o). They were both very attached to her, as were my husband and I. Her departure from our home was excruciatingly painful as you may understand. Our whole family did grieve intensely, including our other 2 kids. Various behaviors changed when she left, and some still are out of order, now 3 months later). We now have a new foster baby who is 4m/o (no expectation fo adoption), He visits bio family 3 times a week. The kis are very aware of his location at all times and when he goes for his all day long weekend visit, their behavior still sometimes is out of whack. Just wanted to add my story.Children may recover faster than we think they will; but they are affected by this type of thing. Losing a sibling who you have spent every day loving for over a year is completely different than seeing a long distance family member a few times a year. I am glad you addresed this issue. What we had wasn’t really a disruption but it was unexpected and unwanted. We had been parents to our FTA daughter for 12 months (since she was 5 days old when I picked her up at the hospital) when we were very unexpectedly called on the phone by her social worker and told that they were going to move to place her with a half sister that had come into the picture out of nowhere the month before. She didn’t leave our home until she was 14 months old. It was very very difficult, as everyone involved in the case had expected that we would be adopting her within the year. She had had no contact whatsoever with an member of her bio family since her first week of life.
We had 2 other children in the home the whole time - 1 FTA daugher who we had completed adoption on (almost 3 y/o), and 1 FTA son not yet adopted (almost 2y/o). They were both very attached to her, as were my husband and I. Her departure from our home was excruciatingly painful as you may understand. Our whole family did grieve intensely, including our other 2 kids. Various behaviors changed when she left, and some still are out of order, now 3 months later). We now have a new foster baby who is 4m/o (no expectation fo adoption), He visits bio family 3 times a week. The kis are very aware of his location at all times and when he goes for his all day long weekend visit, their behavior still sometimes is out of whack.
Just wanted to add my story.Children may recover faster than we think they will; but they are affected by this type of thing. Losing a sibling who you have spent every day loving for over a year is completely different than seeing a long distance family member a few times a year.

]]> By: koo in MN http://fosterpodcast.com/episode-40-fost-adopt-disruption/#comment-276 koo in MN Thu, 03 Jul 2008 18:04:00 +0000 http://fosterpodcast.com/?p=47#comment-276 you guys are so thoughtful. i appreciate all your podcasts and reflections. you are putting such good things out there for all of us to think about. thanks again. you guys are so thoughtful. i appreciate all your podcasts and reflections. you are putting such good things out there for all of us to think about. thanks again.

]]> By: Tim http://fosterpodcast.com/episode-40-fost-adopt-disruption/#comment-275 Tim Tue, 01 Jul 2008 23:26:16 +0000 http://fosterpodcast.com/?p=47#comment-275 So sorry to hear about your mother. Wow, bad timing all around. The two boys that were with us came to our home with the intention to reunify them to their mother. So we knew in advance they would be leaving. So though not technically a disruption, we still grieved their absence. Maybe will talk about that a little more. Thanks for letting us know the email was down. It should be working now. So sorry to hear about your mother. Wow, bad timing all around.

The two boys that were with us came to our home with the intention to reunify them to their mother. So we knew in advance they would be leaving. So though not technically a disruption, we still grieved their absence. Maybe will talk about that a little more.

Thanks for letting us know the email was down. It should be working now.

]]> By: Jenn and James http://fosterpodcast.com/episode-40-fost-adopt-disruption/#comment-274 Jenn and James Tue, 01 Jul 2008 19:11:23 +0000 http://fosterpodcast.com/?p=47#comment-274 You did have a disruption though, just no kids in the home when it happened, right? Could you talk about what you went through when the boys left? Did you feel because reunification was likely, it was easier? You did have a disruption though, just no kids in the home when it happened, right? Could you talk about what you went through when the boys left? Did you feel because reunification was likely, it was easier?

]]> By: Jen http://fosterpodcast.com/episode-40-fost-adopt-disruption/#comment-273 Jen Tue, 01 Jul 2008 18:02:03 +0000 http://fosterpodcast.com/?p=47#comment-273 Hi, Thanks for talking about this. Your email does not work though. I think our whole family will greive in differant ways. I should mention I just lost my mother right before we heard the disruption may happen. So your are right that I am thinking about how I will handle this also. Jenn Hi, Thanks for talking about this. Your email does not work though. I think our whole family will greive in differant ways. I should mention I just lost my mother right before we heard the disruption may happen. So your are right that I am thinking about how I will handle this also.
Jenn

]]> By: Michelle Diaz http://fosterpodcast.com/episode-40-fost-adopt-disruption/#comment-269 Michelle Diaz Mon, 30 Jun 2008 07:57:25 +0000 http://fosterpodcast.com/?p=47#comment-269 haha, the girls told me about the why tickets. one started asking why, and the other said "no, you can't ask 'why', you don't have anymore why tickets!" very clever!! i love it!! =) haha, the girls told me about the why tickets. one started asking why, and the other said “no, you can’t ask ‘why’, you don’t have anymore why tickets!”

very clever!! i love it!! =)

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