Episode 20 - New Year, New Place, New Issues
We’re back after a long delay. We’re finally in our new place and facing new struggles as a result. We’ve got some funny stories to share as well
We mention De Facto Parenting status in this episode. Here’s a link that discusses it further.
What is a De Facto Parent?
Elizabeth V. said,
January 8, 2008 @ 7:18 pm
Hi, happy new year!
This episode blows me away. I detest that Christmas story! As always, I think you guys are doing a wonderful, heroic, Christian thing. I support you with my prayers and in any other way you might need support; just let me know.
With love,
Elizabeth
Wendy said,
January 8, 2008 @ 10:46 pm
You are a gem, Elizabeth. Thank you friend.
Smcpherson05 said,
January 10, 2008 @ 4:56 pm
Hi Tim & Wendy,
I am so drawn to your pod cast and listen to it regularly. I am guessing that you likely experienced the feeling before becoming a foster parent in your heart of longing and purpose, like you just knew that you were supposed to be a foster parent at some point. That is how my husband and I feel anytime someone talks about adoption or fostering.
We are a young couple (25 years) and have one 21 month old, Malachi. I work at home as a pharmaceutical recruiter and my husband is earning his PhD in Psychology for the next three years. We have two bedrooms and not a lot of financial wiggle room, so it is hard to take time off. We are actually waiting on finances to be able to have our second child. I don’t know that I could take care of another toddler or baby at home right now because of my work, but it would seem strange to send our foster child to daycare and keep Malachi at home.
Also, I have heard that the State (WA) will pay for nearly all or all expenses of caring for a child. We have considered adopting a baby in the foster system instead of having one biologically this time. Do you have any thoughts on that?
I am wondering if we were friends if you would advise us to wait on fostering, or if there is a certain age group that would be conducive to our situation. I know that every child is different, but can you lend any guidelines? Our neighbor is a short term foster parent and has discussed that with us a little. If now is not the time, do you have any ideas of common ways we could help kids in our community of about 3,000 people?
I would appreciate very much any feedback that you have. Now that I write this all out it seems like I need to call a social worker or something to discuss further. Thank you for your time and God bless you and your daughters!
In Christ,
Serena
Laura said,
January 12, 2008 @ 7:15 pm
Dear Tim and Wendy,
I feel like I know you both, yet I am a total stranger.
I could have written a comment on any of the days, as I just downloaded the whole series and listened to it end to end. I need to find out how to give feedback at itunes (I am new to this technology). I am like an old lady at 38!
Anyway, my husband and I are hoping for our first placement call any day now. We have been on the call list for a month. We are looking for a long term placement (hopefully leading to adoption) of a little boy or boys to add to our “homemade” kids. Your blog has given me the courage to consider siblings!! I can’t wait to play the whole archive for my wonderful husband.
Bless you both. You are marvelous Christian witnesses. BTW, where can I find the cartoon drawing of the girls? Please don’t stop podcasting, I have been looking for something like this for a long time. Can you recommend any similar podcasts out there?
In Christ’s Holy Name
Laura, near Chicago, ILLINOIS
PS I totally lost it when Wendy cried about not carrying her girls as babies. I have had two and you are right to mourn the loss of those early days. But, God had a different plan this time.
McMom said,
January 15, 2008 @ 5:41 pm
I was sharing the regression you are seeing in Linda with my psychologist coworker. She recommended sending her to preschool with a picture of her classmates and teacher from the former school. This technique helps some children so I thought I would share it with your readers also.
Love,
McMom