Episode 2 – Waiting
It’s our second shot at this thing. We’re waiting on the County placement worker to talk with us, see our home and approve us
This episode is about:
- Waiting and being evaluated
- Tantrums
- Decorating for girls
- Dating ages for teenage girls
Chrissy said,
October 6, 2007 @ 11:13 pm
So, Tim watches the nanny shows. I’ll save that little morsel of info for a rainy day. I really hope the tantrums can be un-learned, for your sake and theirs. And I can’t wait to visit the pink girly room – it sounds like every little girl’s dream come true! We’re praying for you, that you will find patience as you wait and energy once they come.
Tim said,
October 6, 2007 @ 11:14 pm
Drat! sister-in-laws!
Heidi said,
October 6, 2007 @ 11:14 pm
I think tantrums are definitely a part of a toddler’s experimentation… but consistentency of discipline will help to difuse them eventually. That’s how the Nanny gets the kids all settled before the show is over! (ha ha)
I think these girls will learn that you guys are not going to feed into their tantrums if you are calm in explaining that it’s not okay… that you have a place for them to get it out of their system (like a corner or chair or something)… and that you make it a point to win that battle of teaching them not to tantrum.
Believe me, we’ve had our share of tantrums… but they have always been difused by consistent expectations on our part AND by redirecting their behavior somewhere else. Sometimes just a change of scenery will help to change the mood of the child.
And when all that doesn’t work… just walk over the tantrum and put yourself in a time-out until you are able to be calm again!
Love you guys! Praying that this placement will work!
susanmarie said,
October 6, 2007 @ 11:14 pm
As far as girls go, Chris told me that he would probably like to have a third daughter (and this is coming from a guy who just has a brother and only knows guy stuff) ….. so Tim, that’s how GREAT little girls are!!! =) You’ll just eat ‘em up!
Savannah (2.5) hasn’t figured out how to throw a genuine tantrum yet, but I do think they are quite normal for this age. BUT, I don’t think it’s “normal†to throw one for an hour plus. Maybe I’m wrong??? My guess is that it IS “normal†though when you’ve had the life that these girls have had. I think the Super Nanny shows have some great methods. I really think that you both will do wonderfully because you’re devoted, you’ll do the research you need to to find the best strategies, and you come from healthy families and know what “healthy†looks like. Oh yeah, and the biggest thing – you’ll be down on your knees and so will a lot of other people! Can’t wait!
Good for you for working on a fun, girly room, Wendy. =)
I’m just loving this podcast thing!
Crystal said,
October 6, 2007 @ 11:15 pm
Great job on the podcast!
As for tantrums, I’d say that an hour or more tantrum is not normal, but these girls have not had a normal upbringing.(and they have probably learned that they can get what they want by tantrums) Every kid is different, as I’ve learned with our two. But, standing your ground and not giving in is essential. Every kid likes to test and see if you really mean what you say. Micah didn’t start tantrums till he was past 3. Joel started at 13 months or so.
For all the teasing you’ll get, Tim, I think the nanny shows have some good advice. And if you watch, some of those kids throw tantrums for more than an hour.
It’ll take alot of patience, but I’m sure you’re up for it! It might get worse before it gets better.
Oh, and about experience with small children….you have to start somewhere! I didn’t have experience with small children before I had mine! You learn as you go, and you’ll do great!