We’ve started a new therapy program called Parent Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT). We’ve only been to two sessions with the girls but have found that this “proven” program really works. If you’d like to start using some of the skills we’re learning try using this acronym
Praise appropriate behavior
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Archive for the "orphan" category
We discuss the very real problem of social workers who do not return calls. We offer advice and suggestions for getting them to call back with out suggesting a death in your home.
We had three days in court this week. For once, there was an outcome. Listen for a play-by-play.
“We receive enlightenment only in proportion as we give ourselves more and more completely to God by humble submission and love. We do not first see, then act; we act, then see. It is only by the free [...]
This episode is about being grateful and gratitude. It’s also about how you won’t hear those expressions from foster kids.
We mentioned these other websites:
An article by Carrie Craft
The Project Management Podcast by Cornelius Fichtner
Why Children May Not Want To Talk About Adoption
We try to make our best case for why you should adopt through foster care.
We start out with some fundamentals that influence our thinking and then list our 8 best reasons to adopt through the foster care system.
There is plenty of data about the harmful effects orphanages have on children. Here is one of [...]
Our brief experience fostering teenage girls is discussed in all of its glory. We didn’t have a positive experience but we still think it’s a great idea to foster teenagers. Hopefully someone can learn from our experience (most of all us).
We should also be clear, as always, that Michael, Beth and Clare are [...]
In this episode we respond to some listener feedback and answer how we think you should go about choosing the right agency.
In this episode we talk about:
Foster vs. Fost/adopt
Returning your Calls
Location
Shared Values
Other Foster Parents
and much more
We talk about what we’ve done right or “the shortest episode ever.”
In this episode we talk about:
The Snack Bin
Don’t buy into the chaos
Animals and attachment
The Picture Wall
Clearing our schedules
We use Love and Logic, a parenting approach that - you guessed it - emphasizes two things: love and logic.
In this episode we talk about:
Parenting With Love And Logic. Buy the book!
The basics of Love and Logic: choices, consequences and empathy
Why Love and Logic is effective with foster children
Examples from our experiences with kids, [...]
Wendy’s back behind the microphone, so no shenanigans this week.
In this episode we talk about:
The difficulties the girls had while Wendy was away
The difference between discipline and punishment
Can you spank foster kids?
The difficulties we have making the girls sit through a time-out
Wendy is out of town, so Tim hosts the podcast by himself but he’s got 2 special guest with him!
In this episode we talk about:
The need for community in the life of a foster parent.
His Children, an organization that helps churches develop foster care ministries
Special things Wendy did for the girls while she is [...]
The second most question we are asked is “when are you going to have your own kids?” We struggle with how to answer this question. You can hear our thoughts on why.
In this episode we talk about:
Why we’re troubled by an innocent question
Consider Birth Order
Foster kids are always expected to bend
We’ve had some questions about what are good gifts to give to foster kids. Please, we’re not asking for anything!
In this episode we talk about:
Good and bad reasons to give
Gifts that welcome a child
Gifts that show solidarity
We got a surprise this week that may change the course of our lives.
In this episode we also talk about:
Reporting child abuse
Dora the Explorer freebies
Holding time (read an article on holding time here)
We talk about how important it is for foster kids to have good daddies.
We talk about:
The need to counteract bad fathers in foster kids’ lives
Giving hugs
Foster dads who get dragged into by their wives
Telling girls they are pretty. John and Stasi Eldredge: Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman’s Soul
Calming Andrea’s mania
